Day 7 Counseling
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Frequently Ask Questions
What is Therapy
Can therapy help me?
Therapy has been proven to be helpful in multiple situations and for multiple issues. But therapy will only help if you are open to exploring yourself, your thoughts, your feelings, and challenging the core beliefs you have about yourself and your world.
How can therapy help me?
Therapy can help you develop a different perspective of your situation, clearer thinking, better understanding of your feelings and needs, and help you make sense of troubling or confusion emotions that interfere with decision-making and the quality of your relationships. Therapy can also help you change unwanted or troubling behaviors, such as addictions or behaviors that are affecting your relationships. Therapy can help if you are going through a difficult time or facing a difficult decision or situation, such as a career change, the loss of a loved one, or the end of a relationship.
What will we discuss in therapy?
Whatever you wish to discuss, along with skills and changes in thinking to help you cope better with your issues.
Will you give me advice?
Therapy is not about getting advice. That’s what friends are for. Therapy will help you wade through the confusion in your life and help you make better decisions and manage your emotions better. Therapy will offer guidance and suggestions, and help you decide which path you want to take.
Will you prescribe medication?
No. I am not licensed to prescribe medication. Only a licensed medical practitioner can prescribe medication.
What is therapy like?
My goal is to make therapy as comfortable an experience as possible. However, the therapy process can be uncomfortable and difficult at times. Even though it can be uncomfortable, the clients I work with have indicated the temporary pain is worth it in order to leave the continual pain of the life they have been leading behind.
How long does therapy take?
That is all up to you and how willing and motivated you are to do the work that’s needed. It also depends on the issues that need to be addressed and the type of mental illness present, if any. Everyone responds to therapy differently, so it is difficult to determine exactly how long therapy will take.
What is individual therapy?
Individual therapy is when you attend therapy by yourself and work on your issues and concerns. The focus is on your feelings and thought patterns, and how they affect your behavior and relationships.
What is couples therapy?
Couples therapy is what is more commonly referred to as marriage counseling. This is where you and your spouse attend sessions together, and the goal is repair, improvement or enrichment of the relationship. The focus is on the marriage itself, not the individual.
What is cognitive behavioral therapy?
Cognitive behavioral therapy is a therapy approach that believes how you think and feel affects your behavior, and by changing your feelings and thought patterns you, in turn, change your behavior. The widely held belief in cognitive behavior therapy is that our thoughts produce our feelings that result in our behavior. However, it is becoming more and more evident through functional MRI scans that our emotions are processed through the thinking center of our brain, meaning that we actually feel before we think.
What type of therapy do you do?
My basic approach to therapy is essentially cognitive behavioral. I believe our feelings produce our thoughts, which then affect our behavior. The only thing feelings do is tell us how we feel. Therefore, they are not a reliable source to refer to when deciding how to behave or respond. Quite often our feelings produce incorrect or “twisted” thoughts that are not based in fact or reality. So I work with my clients to identify these incorrect thoughts, which results in changed feelings and healthier, more acceptable behavior.
Are you a Christian counselor? And what does that mean?
There are three ways to define a “Christian” counselor. One is a therapist who practices the Christian faith but does not incorporate their faith in their therapy approach. The second is a therapist who is a Christian and counsels from a Biblical worldview, integrating Christian beliefs and approaches in their therapy with secular psychological theories and approaches which they deem to be in agreement with the Word of God. This therapist may or may not utilize Scripture, prayer, education and discussion of their faith, depending on the wishes of the client. The third is what is more commonly referred to as a Biblical counselor. This type of counselor approaches therapy strictly from a Biblical/Scriptural approach, using the Bible as their main or only source of direction. I consider myself a Christian counselor as defined by the second definition.
What if I am not a Christian?
Spiritual beliefs are a personal decision and tell a lot about who you are and your view of the world. I have several clients who are not Christian, and we are able to work together just fine. What’s important is how comfortable you are with the therapist and the relationship that is built between you and your therapist. I am trained and educated in secular psychology, which means I am able to use traditional, standard psychological approaches to therapy that do not require a Christian belief to be effective. I offer Christian/Biblical counseling only to those clients who request it.
Do I need therapy?
What purpose does therapy serve?
Therapy can serve many purposes. It can help enrich an existing relationship, or fix a broken one. It can help heal wounds suffered from years of abuse. It can help accept and manage mental illness, your own or a loved one’s. It can help sort out confusion about a career or relationship, struggles with addictions, manage depression and anxiety, or just give you someone to talk to who will listen and care. What therapy can’t do is change you, and it definitely cannot change your spouse or loved one. Change comes from within, and only you can do that.
I feel like I have my problems under control. Do I really need therapy?
The fact that you are asking the question “Do I need therapy” is an indication that you probably do. At the very least, it would be a good idea to make an appointment and talk with a counselor, and allow the counselor to determine if you need therapy, and how much. It is similar to having a toothache trying to decide whether or not you need to see a dentist. Sometimes the tooth starts feeling better, but that doesn’t mean the core problem has resolved. So you see a dentist and let them determine if something is wrong.
How do I know if therapy is right for me?
Everyone can benefit from therapy, whether it’s just a one-time consultation or long-term. Therapy does not mean you are “crazy” or even that there’s something wrong with you. The better question is “How do I know this therapist is right for me?”
Why do people go to therapy?
There are multiple reasons why people go to therapy, but the basic reason is things are not working in their life. Sometimes people come to therapy because a loved one has begun therapy and their input is needed to help their loved one. Most people who go into therapy are feeling a lot of unpleasant, unwanted, negative feelings, about themselves, their relationships, or their life, and they need help to change.
I don't feel like I have a major problem. Can I still benefit from therapy?
Certainly. Therapy isn’t just for major problems. Therapy can help enrich an existing relationship. Therapy can help with major decisions, such as job changes, getting married or having another child. Therapy can help ward off development of a major problem. In fact, most people wait until their problems are near or in the crisis stage before seeking therapy. It is much better to get therapy before problems become major and turn into a crisis. Like the old adage says, “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.”
How do I pay for therapy sessions?
Will my insurance cover our sessions? How does that work?
Your insurance may or may not cover our sessions. You would have to check with your insurance company to see if they would reimburse you for sessions. If they do, I will provide you with the necessary documents to submit to your insurance company for reimbursement.
Do I pay every session? Monthly?
Yes, payment is due at every session, even if you file for reimbursement from your insurance company. I do not file for insurance.
Do you offer a sliding scale?
No, at this time, I do not offer a sliding scale. But I do encourage you to talk to me about your financial situation as I am willing to work with you as your financial situation allows.
What if I cannot make it to a session? (Cancellation policy)
I have a 24 hour cancellation policy – if you cancel more than 24 hours prior to your session, you will not be charged. If you cancel less than 24 hours prior to a scheduled appointment, you will be charged the full session fee.
How do I find a therapist?
How can I tell if a therapist is a good match for me?
Meet with the therapist, ask them questions, see how you feel talking to them. Are they open? Do they appear honest? Do they seem to care about you? Are they willing to work with you financially? Are you comfortable talking with them? Not every therapist is a good match for everyone. If one therapist just doesn’t seem to “fit”, feel free to look for someone who does.
Should I see a male or female therapist?
That would depend on who you feel most comfortable with. If you are a female who has issues with males, perhaps have been abused in the past by a male, then a female therapist may be best suited for you. Again, if you don’t feel comfortable with the therapist, then that therapist probably isn’t for you.
What kind of therapist do I need?
This would depend on what issue you are looking to address. If you are having issues in your marriage, look for someone who specializes in marriage counseling. If you are struggling with an addiction, look for someone who specializes in addition counseling. Just like you would not go to a neurologist for a heart problem, therapists also specialize.
What credentials should I look for?
First and foremost, a license. Each state has different licensing requirements, but each state does require a license to practice counseling for a fee. A licensed therapist is required to obtain continuing education to maintain their license. They are also regulated and held accountable by the state licensing board, which gives the client an avenue in which to file complaints. Also look for certifications in their field of specialization.
How will we measure success?
How will I know if therapy is working?
Successful counseling will feel different. It will feel like something has changed and things are working – or at least working better than they were before. People may begin to comment that there is something different about you, or they may begin to respond differently to you. You begin to have more confidence and hope about your future. You will try out new behaviors and find the results are better than how they would have been before. Ultimately, you will be the one to determine whether therapy is working or not.
How quickly can I expect to feel better?
That depends on how motivated you are to change as well as whatever issues you are struggling with. Some issues take longer to explore and resolve. Just as everyone responds to medical treatment differently, everyone responds to therapy different, so it’s difficult to say how long it will take before you begin to feel better.
How do I get in touch with you?
Where are you located?
Where are you located?
I am located in Hillsborough, NC, at 960 Corporate Drive, Suite 406.
Can I give you a call?
When can we have sessions?
Do you have evening or weekend availability?
I do offer evening sessions on a first come-first served basis, and they get filled up pretty quickly. I do not offer weekend sessions.
How do I schedule my appointments?
Your first appointment will be scheduled during our initial contact – either through email or phone call. Any subsequent appointments will be scheduled at the end of your session. If you leave a session without a future appointment scheduled, it will be your responsibility to contact me, either by phone or email, to schedule your next appointment. If you need to reschedule an appointment, that also can be done by either phone or email.
Further fears and concerns:
Does what we talk about in therapy remain confidential?
Absolutely. I take confidentiality very seriously. I require your written permission to speak to anyone outside of our therapy sessions (with a few exceptions which will be explained to you in our first session).
Can I decide to see a different therapist?
You most certainly can. This is your therapy, and if you don’t feel we are a good fit, then I encourage you to seek a different therapist.
Will you think I'm "crazy"?
The term “crazy” is an offensive term and very dismissive. So, no, I will not think you’re crazy. What I will see is someone who is struggling with some difficult issues and events in their lives that have left scars and wounds that won’t heal. Broken, lost, hurting – not “crazy.”
Will you get tired of hearing me talk about the same things over and over again?
No, I will not get tired of hearing you talk about the same things. But I will probably challenge you to consider the reasons why you seem to talk about the same things, and why you think these things aren’t changing.
Will there be any written record of what I say? What happens to that record?
I do take notes during session, then type them into a secure HIPAA compliant program. These notes are to document what treatment was given and to help me maintain continuity of your care. These records are kept for a period of time after treatment has stopped. However, no one has access to these records without your written permission and prior notification.
Location and Hours
960 Corporate Drive,
Hillsborough, NC 27278
By appointment only. Evening hours available.